My views on men who wear pantyhose | Nohealani's Blog
"Are there women who like men in pantyhose?"
I will attempt to explain my thoughts on the subject. Obviously, I do not speak for all women. However, pantyhose issue aside, I believe that what I have to say may give a very generalized understanding of what women see in a man--pantyhose or not.
Do I like men in pantyhose? Before I answer that, I want to make clear that for the few of us women that actually like pantyhose, our reasons are probably very different from the reasons men may like to wear them.
I consider myself to be very perceptive. From what I have gathered in the months that I have been here (and elswhere), it appears that many pantyhose-wearing men wear pantyhose for one or more of the following reasons (excluding any medical reasons):
I can't pretend to understand the psychology behind those reasons. However, if it satisfies a certain need, and doesn't harm anyone, I don't think it's bad for a man to wear pantyose.
So, do I like men in pantyhose?
I debated whether or not to touch this subject. It is not important to reveal what prompted this to become a blog topic. Suffice it to say, I have decided to air my thoughts on the matter because I think it may help some men understand, in some small way, what makes me tick. I think this would also be a good opportunity for me to give some gentle fashion advice to men who may be considering wearing pantyhose publicly.
Those who have read my humble words here on EP already know that I like to wear pantyhose. With that in mind, what I have to say regarding men in pantyhose may surprise you.
I mentioned what I perceive to be the reasons why men like to wear pantyhose are, because I think many pantyhose-wearing men would like to fantasize that women who enjoy pantyhose themselves are somehow "turned on" by the sight of a man in pantyhose. While there may be women like that out there, in my humble opinion, such women are exceedingly rare.
Understand that there is a distinction here between women who are genuinely "turned on," and women who lovingly accept and indulge their pantyhose-wearing husbands or boyfriends.
It is true that I love pantyhose. But in general, I wouldn't be "turned on" by seeing a man openly wearing pantyhose in public; it is neither a "turn on" nor a "turn off" in and of itself. If a man were to openly wear pantyhose in public, I would hope that in doing so, such a man isn't being daft about the look he is trying to achieve. I'm not talking about men who publicly wear pantyhose for shock value, or those who deliberately try to elicit a reaction from other people. I'm talking about men who try to wear pantyhose as part of their normal clothing.
Where I live, I personally haven't seen any men openly wearing pantyhose in public. I'm not saying there's anything good or bad about that; it just happens to be the demographic here. This doesn't necessarily mean that men here don't wear pantyhose; if they do, it's probably under their regular clothing, so I would never notice.
However, if I were to come across a man openly wearing pantyhose, how would I react? To be honest, it's hard to say without ever having confronted such a situation. I imagine I'd probably have mixed feelings about it. The issue isn't whether or not a man enjoys wearing pantyhose--some men just do. I get that. And, I'd assume it would be for one of the reasons I mentioned previously. I have no problem with the fact that some men like to wear pantyhose.
The real issue for me would probably be that in most cases, it would probably look very odd. From what I gather, it seems to me that many pantyhose-wearing men would like to just throw on a pair of pantyhose, throw on a skirt or some shorts, go walking down the street, and be accepted by everybody.
Understand that most people would be put off by the sight of a man in pantyhose; putting little thought into one's overall appearance would only serve to further drive public consensus toward the negative. My hope for men who would openly wear pantyhose is that they not get so caught up in the thrill that they lose sight of their overall look. Done smartly, properly shaved, and with great care and coordination, I do believe it is possible for a man to achieve a stylish look with fasionable hosiery. If a man wishes to openly wear pantyhose in public, I feel that he is obliged to show some class and sensibility when assembling his outfit.
Why such a high standard for men? Because there is basically no paradigm for such accessorization for men. I instinctively know how to coordinate pantyhose with my own outfits. In contrast, I have no point of reference when it comes to incorporating pantyhose into men's daily attire. I do have a general idea of what might look good or bad. Even so, it is hard to say without actually seeing it in practice. Thus, I feel the safest place to start in terms of attire would have to be the most conservative.
As I've said before, I have no problem with the fact that a man might want to wear pantyhose. But if he is going to wear them in an unfashionable manner while in public, I have no desire to see it. Mind you, the same goes for women, as they are sometimes just as guilty. (In fact, some women may be even worse--since they are women, they think they can get away with anything.) The point here is that I just don't care to observe pantyhose (or any other) fashion blunders--in men or women--because it demonstrates a lack of care or self-awareness in one's personal appearance.
Fashion considerations aside, I am sure that some men would have great legs in pantyhose. But as I have mentioned earlier, the wearing of pantyhose in and of itself is neither a "turn on" nor a "turn off." In my view, a man's attractiveness inherently exists within him regardless of what he is wearing. If I find a man appealing, it's not just because he's dressed a certain way. A man's personality, sensitivity, intelligence, and god-given appearance are what make him attractive. Clothing can enhance a man's appeal, but will never form the basis for it.
It is probably no surprise that, yes, my husband does wear pantyhose. I will only reveal that:
I mentioned my husband because there is a certain duality with my attitude towards pantyhose-wearing men. Do I find my husband appealing? Definitely. Even in pantyhose? Yes, but not because he is wearing pantyhose. I find him very sexy, but it's everything about him, not the fact that he wears a certain piece of clothing.
True, I happen to think my husband looks really good in pantyhose. Of course, since he doesn't wear them openly, he doesn't need to match them with his outfits. Thus, in the privacy of our own home, he looks good in virtually any kind of pantyhose.
Admittedly, I am sure a lot of my biased perception stems from the immense love we have for each other. So, is this a double standard? Absolutely not! It is completely natural to be wholly enamored with the one you love. Traits that you look upon with ambivalance in other people are seen under a very different light with your loved one. That is the nature of love; it cannot be rationalized. If you truly love your partner, you will know exactly what I am talking about.
And, if you are completely commited to your spouse, nobody will light your fire in quite the same way that he or she does. I admit that somtimes, other "handsome" men may catch my eye; but that's all they are--eye candy. The only man that "does it" for me is my man--whether or not he is in pantyhose.
On a final note, I must point out to pantyhose-wearing men who have accepting wives that there is a difference between loving your wife, and loving your wife because she wears pantyhose or accepts your wearing of pantyhose. This is something I hope to address in a future post.
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